Relationships are very important in our lives. Whether it be romantic relationships, friendships or family relationships, it is important that these relationships are strong and healthy. Our head psychologist, Mary Magalotti and our team of psychologists offer relationship counselling for those that might be struggling with any kind of relationship. It is important to recognise patterns within your relationships so you can understand the trends and behaviours that need to change. Our Director, Jodie Brenton wants all Australians to have the skills and knowledge to live a happy and healthy life. Here are some ways to recognise patterns within your relationships.
Recognising patterns can be difficult as you are very close to the relationship, and may not be able to observe these themes. It is important to take the time to carefully and mindfully observe aspects of your relationship. It can be helpful to focus on your relationship dynamic, expectations, any causes of conflict or reoccurring feelings. An honest and deep examination of your relationships requires you to be open to analysing yourself within the relationship, as the relationship does not occur outside of you. However, this means you have to identify where you and the other person begins and ends, and where the individuals start and end. This will help you separate your issues from theirs and identify the issues that occur within the relationship.
Here are some simple steps that can help:
Define the issue
Clearly identify and define what the issue is before you try to fix it. A deeper analysis of the issue is needed before you can try and overcome the issue. Having a clear idea of the issue is the first step in fixing the problem.
Identify the patterns that are allowing the problem to arise and continue
This is an important step in analysing the reoccurring patterns in your relationships. A deep look at patterns or themes in the relationship that might appear unrelated on the surface, but are related to the issues you define.
Look at ways you might be contributing to the patterns or problems
It is very important to look at your own behaviour and feelings before you can fix anything in the relationship. By doing this you can uncover how much you or the other person is contributing to the problem. This helps recognise that you are not a passive actor in the relationship and you are actively seeking the deeper issues and dynamics in the relationship.
Intercept ‘patterned’ behaviour
Once you have completed the previous steps, you can then identify the situations that cause patterned behaviours or emotions. Once these are recognised, you can take action to ensure the behaviours or situations play out in a different way. However, throughout this step, it is important that you are communicating with the other person to ensure they are also trying to stop pattern behaviours.
This process is difficult and can be scary. Seeking professional help can improve your relationships in a range of ways. From problem identification to changing behaviours to outlining goals within your relationships, professionals can help you build and maintain healthy relationships
Life Resolutions and Relationships
Here at Life resolutions Essendon psychology clinic in Melbourne, we offer a range of services that can help you with your relationships. Some of these services include; couples counselling, family counselling, socialising and friendship help, relationship advice and life issues counselling. No matter your relationship concerns, our experienced team is here to help.
Mary Magalotti and Jodie Brenton want to ensure that all Australians have access to relationship counselling, as relationships are an important facet of life. The Life Resolutions telehealth Counselling team of psychologists are experienced in providing relationship counselling both face-to-face and via telehealth. Learn more about our services on our website. You can also book online or over the phone.