How to impress people is something that I have been trying to figure out my whole life. My twin brother and I grew up in a family of 7. Our family life was not always perfect, but there were also things I would never trade.
My dad was perhaps one of the best salespeople that I’ve ever met. He was also a professional gambler for more than 3 decades, so the man knew how to impress people. He also knew that living to impress people wasn’t the key to happiness. However, impressing people is often a side effect of being genuinely happy.
I lost my last 3 MMA fights, so there I was after last one sitting in the dressing room. I was upset, so my dad asked me why. My response was that I wasn’t happy with my less than impressive performance.
“Don’t worry about impressing people. You shouldn’t fight to impress anyone nor care what they say about it. If you have a dream chase it and don’t worry about impressing people while you do it. Most of them don’t know what you’re trying to do or why you’re trying to do it. You’re O’Mazing and I know it. Besides, it is easy to impress people; just show them who you are.”
My dad was not always the most supportive or outwardly loving person, so his words made a huge impact. Most of the reason why I was fighting was so I could impress him. He didn’t say amazing but went with my catchphrase at the time so I knew he cared. He was gone not long after that, so I think about these words often. The more I think about them the more I get how much meaning was put behind them.
Don’t Live To Impress People
You should never live to impress other people because it’s a waste of time and energy. You’ll be a lot happier if you live to impress yourself.
However, it is also important to have the ability to make a good first impression with people. Knowing how to impress people can really help you improve your life. So it’s my hope that these tips on how to impress people are easy-to-apply to your life.
Most people decide within seconds whether or not they’ll like, trust and respect you. Therefore, these tips on how to impress people should help with finding a job or fundraising for nonprofits.
10 tips on how to impress people you need to know
1. Put people at ease first:
It is always important to remember that people are animals that have DNA wired to anticipate danger. We also live in a dog eat dog world, so being mindful of that pays. I ‘m a rather large individual that can look angry very easily. I’m also an extrovert that never stops talking, so I try to always put people at ease through self-deprecating humor and being mindful of their cues and body language. Part of the reason why I dress down on most occasions is to be taken less as a threat.
If you’re approaching someone online you still have to put them at ease. Sure, their guard is not up as a result of a physical threat, but there is also danger online. So it makes sense to start things off slow when it comes to forming online relationships too.
Make it clear that you aren’t in a person’s inbox or social media thread just to get something from them. That is a great way to impress people online.
2. Do your share of helping others:
We all have our problems and issues to deal with and we all need help from time to time. That is why it is so important to help people when you are able to. It doesn’t really matter why someone needs help. Do your share of helping others, because it’s the right thing to do. Impressing others is just a benefit that comes along with doing some good deeds.
SPN was built to help others through our social media groups and nonprofit fundraising. We grew into a marketing company due to the way people appreciate our efforts to help others. Now, we can focus on helping others that are fighting disease or going through a major life crisis.
3. Avoid the drama:
We all have good days and we all also have our bad days too. The ability to consistently avoid the drama is one sure to impress people.
The ability to apply tact and make a point without making enemies is a great way to impress people.
No wants to hire the person that brings drama to the table. It doesn’t really matter what role they’re trying to fill either. Most people are trying hard to avoid the drama, so keep that in mind. If you’re hiring an employee, dating someone, choosing friends would you choose the drama?
No one else does either, so try to avoid the drama.
People don’t want more drama in their lives and you can’t blame them. Therefore, it makes sense to limit the drama you share online or off.
4. Follow the Golden Rule:
Do you like people that treat you the way you want to be treated?
Yea, so do most other people. Following the Golden Rule makes it a lot easier to avoid the drama. It also helps others to avoid the drama, so it’s a total win-win way to impress people.
There is a huge reason why treating others the way you want to be treated is known around the world as the Golden Rule. Sadly, it’s not as common as it perhaps once was. Making it clear you follow the Golden Rule will also put people at ease and help you build trust. You should try to never break the Golden Rule.
5. Take ownership of faults and work to make amends:
We all really do have our bad days or moments and say things we probably shouldn’t. The option to take ownership of faults and work to make amends is also there for everyone. To truly make amends with someone you first need to take ownership of your faults or wrongdoings. This is very hard for a lot of people to do for a variety of reasons.
Develop the ability to take ownership of your faults and wrongdoings. Working to make amend is an awesome way to impress people. It is also one of the best ways to follow the Golden Rule. If you want people to apologize or make amends for the wrong they do provide the same courtesy to others.
6. Keep it real while picking your battles:
Every wannabe influencer on social is talking about how to keep it real. Authentic is also perhaps the biggest buzzword of 2018 in a lot of circles. Part of me hates it because so many people just say the words without making a true effort. Part of me also really likes it because you should always be real with people.
However, keeping it really real all the time can cause a lot of problems with the whole “avoid the drama” tip. So it is important to pick your battles. Be mindful of cues and use a little tact when keeping it real. It makes life easier. If you can’t use tact and keep it real, then it’s time to move on.
Keep it real while picking your battles and you’re sure to impress people. You will also build a lot of self-respect if you can keep it real while following the golden rule.
7. Maintain your integrity no matter what:
At the end of your days, you can take nothing with you, but your integrity. Unless you lose it along the way.
How you made people feel and the positive impact you make will be your legacy. Maintaining your integrity no matter what will impress people. It will also help you build life-long friendships. Maintain your integrity and you’ll most likely make a positive impact on the world.
It’s hard not to like someone that follows the Golden Rule and tries to do the right thing. You can get a lot of grace from a lot of people for many faults if you act with integrity. Acting with integrity is a great way to influence people, but it will also bring long-term happiness.
It’s not always easy to act with integrity especially when it’s not the popular thing to do. Acting with integrity is not always the best way to impress people. However, it’s always worth it because it’s always the right thing to do.
8. Chase down dreams like a hungry lion chasing a gazelle:
Without passion, you lose hope and people without hope don’t impress people. The people that truly chase down dreams like a hungry lion chasing a gazelle impress people. They impress people because it takes a lot of passion most of us don’t use to truly chase down dreams.
9. Stay positive
Having the ability to stay positive is one of my favorite ways to impress people. Everyone loves sunshine, puppies, and rainbows due to the way they make us feel. Find the positive vibes in every earthquake and people will gravitate to you.
Your intentions don’t matter as much as your tone due to the way people avoid the drama. If you have something that needs to be said, then stay positive and find a good way to say it. It’s always worth the extra time to say it right. It also helps make a good impact on the world when you teach others to stay positive. Hang onto your positivity like you do your integrity and you’ll be alright.
10. Have confidence
This list could easily be named “10 tips on how to be sexy.” Have confidence because having true confidence is a surefire way to impress people. Life is always beating down on top of all of us. We can all find a million reasons to not have confidence.
Successful people tend to have confidence. They also tend to have confidence before they’re successful.
Final thoughts on how to impress people
It is important to know how to impress people, but your life can be so much more. People are drawn to those with an open mind and passion for other people. Don’t just strive to show how much drive and empathy you have for other people. Develop your drive to get things done to help other people. That drive will also help you get the most out of life.
Life is not meant to be spent chasing respect or love from other people. Spend your life by giving respect and love to people. You will find that giving people love and respect is the best way to get love and respect. Being mindful of how you make others feel will change your world. It will also change their world.
Life is too short and none of us knows when our time has come. We can get that one-way ticket to meet our maker at any time, so make sure to keep that in mind. Knowing that life is short and unknown is not something you should worry about. It is something you should embrace to impress people enough for them to want to do the same. Live your life in a way that inspires others to have a little more drive and empathy. It will be a life well spent.
Warmest regards and thank you for reading. Please let me know in the comments or by sharing how you feel.
About the author: Michael (Mike) O’Connor
Mike is the creator of the Service Professionals Network social media project. Mike is also a content writer for Crushing B2B, Exit Your Way, and a marketing partner for Monat. Please feel free to contact mike anytime.