How I Feel About Schedules At The Moment
We all have our own unique way of doing things.
I tend to tell people that I’m like an internet banker, because I take calls 9-5 (CST) Mon-Fri from just about anyone that gets my number. If you make deposits (you’re nice, you engage, you join my site) we can talk all day. If you make a lot of withdrawals (you scam people, you’re not 100% real, spread negativity, talk about nonsense), then we are going to close the account real quick.
I don’t do schedules though. I don’t schedule anything with anyone for any reason. I occasionally will show up to scheduled events, if the topic interests me, or people pay me to do so.
I don’t do schedules for several reasons. One of the biggest reasons, is the ego-check that comes with telling someone NO. People that get mad or offended, which happens A LOT, quickly let me know there are underlying issues. If someone gets mad, or feels the need to attack me or compare their way of doing things with mine reveals a lot about themselves. It saves me a lot of wasted time.
I make myself accessible so people that want to chat can call me. My experience has been that the people that get mad, because I won’t click the button to fit into their schedule aren’t going to be a good fit into my life anyway. :)
I never ask anyone to schedule anything with me. If you want to schedule time with me, then I assume you want my help in one way or the other. If you want help from someone, then you should be willing to meet them halfway.
I don’t ask people to schedule things, because I respect their time. I tend to miss appointments, and I hate it when I schedule things for someone and they blow me off.
Your boundaries and way of living is your business. My boundaries and way of living is my business. I’m looking for the reasonable people that truly understand things like common courtesy, common decency, common sense, and the golden rule.
My point here, is it is OK to tell people no. It’s OK to do things your way. You don’t have to fit anyone’s box to be happy or successful. You just have to know what works for you, while being aware that other people will push your boundaries no matter what. The second you give into the demands of other people, you set a precedent with them and yourself. People waste a lot of time, energy, and money trying to fit into things that don’t even matter. Don’t do that.
We definitely all have our own way of doing things. I am much more schedule-oriented. It makes things easier for me to ensure I get everything done. It does mean that I have time blocked out for meetings, and I am prepared when they happen. Of course, that also means I am occasionally disappointed when someone doesn’t show.